We all have our moments where we don’t want to be bothered as soon as we come home from a long day. We just want a couple minutes to ourselves to wash away the people who gave us attitude, and who used the toilet paper without refilling it. At the same time, we then feel guilty for not spending that time with our kids.
We get so caught up in our world thinking that we are tired for working FOR our kids to have nice lives, but then we become absent at home. So how do you find balance?
There are those that say you will never find balance, that life is always going to raise you up then knock you down and the cycle will endlessly repeat itself. But there are things you can do to help transition from employee to dad/mom.
Talk to your kids! Ask them “Would you like to hear about my day?” on the car ride home, I can almost guarantee that they will not understand, of course but they will listen to you. You are then able to release all the negative energy you had from the day and not think about it because you just spilled your guts to a 2-year-old. Even if you must over talk them, just do it.
All the kiddos need is your involvement, they want to see you happy and kids can feed off our vibes.
It is a tricky line to find, to be engaged with our children and their lives, yes nobody said it was easy. Being an engaged parent has many benefits for a child such as, increasing feelings of love and acceptance, building self-confidence, and providing guidance and opportunities to grow.
Think about your kids’ day too!
Be random. Take your kiddo out not only when he\she has a awesome day at school; what about a date with your little one because their having a rough day? Give them random kisses and hugs (which never get old to them!).
Make the effort. Obviously we can’t be around our kiddos 24/7. But of all the ways to be involved, trying is CRUCIAL. If it’s taking 10 minutes to kick around a ball in the background, it could turn into something and a memory that your child will remember. It just takes one step!
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