There can be a lot of pressure these days to make sure our children have that perfect holiday experience. It can be a difficult feat with Pinterest and social media, but COVID added a new level. So how can you make the holidays meaningful and fun while also keeping everyone healthy? A little bit of creativity!

Last year, trick or treating was virtually non-existent as families wanted to steer clear of community events and stay safe and healthy. This year is proving to be much improved but there are still things you can do at home for your little ones to keep the fun alive.

1.) Easter/Halloween hybrid. We chose not to go out last year and our boys were sad. Instead, we hid candy throughout the house, put lots of glow sticks everywhere, played spooky music on, and sent them searching with their Halloween bags. It was actually such a blast that they’ve asked to do it again this year. For children not eating candy, simple Halloween stuffies, bubbles, and toys can be put into a cute basket.

2.) Halloween crafts at home. There are a ton of fun keepsakes you can create with your young children. Some favorites of ours are booty print pumpkins, baby footprint monsters, and a first Halloween canvas. We love to pick up cheap Halloween stickers and create collages with them too.

3.) Halloween baking. Our boys love to decorate cookies and cupcakes. We bake every year and set out frosting and candies to have fun with. We make it a family affair and send pictures to out-of-town family members to see who has created the best masterpieces.

There are a lot of fun things that can be done in the safety of your home or even just for small children too young to go out trick or treating. As life returns to a more normal state, some of these can also still be a ton of fun during the weeks leading up to Halloween.

Ms. Amy
Parent Connection Coordinator
Lead Infant Supervisor

When I had our first son, I had been working in Early Childhood Education for 7 years. I thought coming back to work and returning to “normal” would be a walk in the park. Boy…was I wrong! I lasted a whole 2 weeks and put in my notice so I could stay home with my baby. I was literally in the room right next to him but it was too difficult and I was fortunate enough to be able to make the decision to stay home with him. I had been doing this job for so many years but I had no idea what it meant to have all these parents trusting me with their babies.

Even under normal circumstances, we truly understand what we are asking of you when you leave your precious babies with us. It’s a lot. Whether you’re excited to return to work or not, leaving your baby in the care of someone else is hard. We’re asking you to put so much trust in our ability to love, care for and protect your little ones. In a pandemic though? It’s insanity.

I can tell you all that on our end, we’re missing the relationships with you as parents. I am personally still in contact with parents of babies I taught 10 plus years ago. It’s one of my favorite parts of the job and one thing I am lost without. So asking you to trust us when you hardly know us is a tall ask, and we are completely aware of that.
In light of this I’ve been talking with the other teachers in the building and we’ve come up with some promises to you as teachers and a lot have said some of the same things. Pandemic or not, here are some promises to you.

We promise to love your children as our own. We spend a large amount of time with your children. We get the reputation as babysitters but I promise it’s so much more than that. We get to know your children. We bond with them. We learn their cues and quirks. We truly love them.

We promise to advocate for your children and for you as well. Parenting is hard. I talk about all the advice (good and bad) and how hard it is to sift through that, but sometimes having us as another set of eyes is important. We’ll advocate for the good and the bad, the beautiful and the ugly, and empower you to seek out answers for those struggles and ways to celebrate those wins. We have your backs. 100%.

We promise to communicate and keep you in the loop. We’re a team, and while this form of communication is new and challenging for a lot of us, we’re putting in the work to bring it all together. Messages, phone calls, pictures, conferences…we’re here for it all. Please feel comfortable reaching out to us to make those connections, and we promise to do the same.

This pandemic threw everyone for a loop, but even without it love, advocacy, empowerment and communication are definitely at the forefront of what we do here day in and day out. We promise.

Ms. Amy
Parent Connection Coordinator
Infant Nursery Supervisor

Parenting may not be rocket science, but oftentimes, we may get caught off guard when we encounter challenging moments. This can cause us to give in to our emotions, the outcome of which may be ugly and unhealthy. That’s where the concept of “Mindful Parenting” comes to play. Mindful parenting is when parents give conscious attention to their children’s actions as well as their own actions towards their children. It is important to remember that you are the parent, and the number one rule for mindful parenting is to never engage in an incident when your child is exhibiting behavior that might cause you to react emotionally. Parents need to take a firm stand on things, especially when making a point. No matter the circumstance, it’s best to “Respond, not react.” 

A child’s upbringing is crucial to their psychological development. If there’s one thing a child craves during these pivotal early stages of development, it’s attention. This plays a significant role in discussions about mindful parenting. For many children, gaining attention from a parent is bliss. It can feel like their favorite candy bar or ice cream. They crave it. They have to have it. Have you ever noticed how young children may act stubborn and misbehave at times? It may be their way of trying to get your attention.  As the saying goes, “You can’t give what you don’t have.” It’s exactly the same with mindful parenting. Be attentive, so you can give attention. 

Parenting is multi-faceted. And just like any other responsibilities, parenting comes with its own set of challenges and processes. Emotional management plays a big role in effective mindful parenting. For example, you yourself need to be regulated first before imposing regulation on others. Effective parenting can’t be delivered if you as the parent are unstable, stressed, or simply not your best self. Remember, the energy you give out to your child is the same energy (or less) you will receive. 

Also, bear in mind that attention is “currency” when it comes to establishing a nurturing relationship with children. Mindful parenting isn’t as complicated as it seems. Some may relate this kind of parenting as Authoritative Parenting. This is said to be the most effective among the 4 types of parenting styles. It’s been claimed to have positive effects on the child’s social-emotional wellbeing, academic progress, and behavior. Try to remember that there is a fine line between being too strict and being too lax. 

When parents who “spoil” their children, this is often misconstrued as bad parenting, or it could be the other way around. Some parents tend to spoil their children because they think it’s a good way of being present. The key is finding the right balance between love and discipline. It is a tricky process, yes. Quite challenging, too! But here are five good strategies that may help you become more effective in mindful parenting:

Be present for your children. Always, all ways

Being present means, again, giving your child as much attention as you can. Receiving attending is a fundamental need for little ones, and it is essential for their emotional development and growth. Their constant need for attention is also their unconscious way of asking for love. So if your child surprises you with whining or with an attitude, this could be a signal for you.

Find the right balance between love, respect, understanding, and discipline

This might be the trickiest part! This involves the delicate process of setting boundaries and expectations. Just be careful not to overdo it! Find ways to give your child credit for making positive choices, and try not to be overly critical of their mistakes. Remember that it’s also essential for their self-esteem and self-confidence as children learn to receive both criticism and praise equally with grace. Too much of either can make them, or break them.

Keep your cool

Anger is actually a healthy emotion when used sparingly. Our brain has a natural response to a certain emotion, especially when it is triggered. Try to notice and get a hold of your thoughts, especially when they are negative ones. These are the types that may amplify your feelings in a certain way. Try your hardest to do away with over-generalizing, “mind-reading”, and especially blaming. 

The longer the patience, the lesser the drama

As the saying goes, “Patience is a virtue.”  In this equation, patience really is gold. It is one of the core elements of parenting. Exhibiting patience requires a lot of understanding and self-control. Of course, children need their parents’ utmost understanding, especially at a time when they still have a lot to learn. 

Embrace the imperfection

Nobody’s perfect. Human as we are, we all have flaws, and we all make mistakes. There’s also no such thing as perfect parenting. Children have a lot to learn from their parents, and parents also have a lot to learn from their children. A parent-child relationship is a give and take thing but either way, it can be a win-win situation. Like all things in this world, everything is a process. Everything takes time, and nothing is perfect. 

Parenting in general is really quite a challenge, especially when it comes to figuring out what kind of approach best works for you and your children. Whichever method you choose, these mindful parenting strategies are surefire ways to improve your approach to parenting.

For more helpful and effective parenting tips, feel free to visit Young Scholars Academy.